I've talked about anger, shame, and worthlessness before but I'm bringing it up because someone posted a note on my website about these things. The person said that they always thought that the anger was just a "personality trait" and hadn't connected it with the shame and worthlessness. The poster also mentioned that s/he felt disconnected from people/life.
One thing people might think about doing if they are looking for help is finding a Reality Therapist in their area. The poster mentioned that s/he doesn't want to relive all the past hurt, but wants to get on with life. Reality Therapy doesn't require you to go through all the past hurts. It's about moving on today, making choices and decisions for yourself.
You can find information about Reality Therapy at:
http://www.wglasser.com/
William Glasser is a psychiatrist whose been around since the 60's, I believe, and he created Reality and Choice Therapy. They are one in the same really. You can also pick up books on this therapy in bookstores or on Amazon.
I think it's worth looking into if you want to get on with your life. Life is about making choices and decisions and dealing with reality as it is. We can change our lives now if we choose to. Reality Therapy helps us learn how to do that.
So, if you're looking for something you can do today to better your life, there is a link on Glasser's site so you can find a therapist in your area.
Please email for a REVIEW COPY.Bad Girls Club has been added to the Pacific Northwest Special Collection at the University of Washington Library and the Ted Hipple Special Collection at the University of South Florida.
BAD GIRLS CLUB (not connected with the TV show) is a roller coaster ride that will put you into the head of a parentified child who is fighting to save her life. If you've ever wondered what it's like to be that child or if you were that child, you'll find yourself in these pages.
I was a parentified child and this blog is a lot about that and also about the things I've learned and done as a result of that experience. I've published two books, (Save Me, A Young Woman's Journey Through Schizophrenia to Health, Doubleday; Bad Girls Club, Blooming Tree Press) both about parentified and abused children which have been well received by educators and mental health experts.
"This book is a must read for school counselors, school psychologists, school nurses and all those interested in providing education and intervention for youngsters trapped in similar family dynamics and unable to free themselves."
Jan Tkaczyk MA School Counselors Assoc. Adjunct Professor, UMass. Boston "Bad Girls Club is as riveting as Dave Pelzer's A Child Called It books, but is far better at exploring the psychological reasons why the abused remain so loyal to their abusers." Midwest Book Review  parentification, child abuse, young adults, abandonment, shame, vulnerability
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