Please email for a REVIEW COPY.Bad Girls Club has been added to the Pacific Northwest Special Collection at the University of Washington Library and the Ted Hipple Special Collection at the University of South Florida.
BAD GIRLS CLUB (not connected with the TV show) is a roller coaster ride that will put you into the head of a parentified child who is fighting to save her life. If you've ever wondered what it's like to be that child or if you were that child, you'll find yourself in these pages.
I was a parentified child and this blog is a lot about that and also about the things I've learned and done as a result of that experience. I've published two books, (Save Me, A Young Woman's Journey Through Schizophrenia to Health, Doubleday; Bad Girls Club, Blooming Tree Press) both about parentified and abused children which have been well received by educators and mental health experts.
"This book is a must read for school counselors, school psychologists, school nurses and all those interested in providing education and intervention for youngsters trapped in similar family dynamics and unable to free themselves."
Jan Tkaczyk MA School Counselors Assoc. Adjunct Professor, UMass. Boston "Bad Girls Club is as riveting as Dave Pelzer's A Child Called It books, but is far better at exploring the psychological reasons why the abused remain so loyal to their abusers." Midwest Book Review  parentification, child abuse, young adults, abandonment, shame, vulnerability
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ParentificationWhat do I do?March 3, 2010
I get many emails and comments from people who have discovered that they were parentified and who are seeking help. The best suggestion I can give is to seek professional help for your particular problem. I don't have the answers for you, although I can certainly share your pain. I know parentification well and (more…)
Anger, Shame, WorthlessnessAugust 4, 2009
I've talked about anger, shame, and worthlessness before but I'm bringing it up because someone posted a note on my website about these things. The person said that they always thought that the anger was just a "personality trait" and hadn't connected it with the shame and worthlessness. The poster also mentioned that s/ (more…)
If you leave me a note on my blog...July 31, 2009
Please be sure to leave me an email so I can answer you. Better yet, send me an email so your email isn't hanging out there in public view.
Sometimes people ask me questions and then they leave and I have no way of contacting them or knowing if they come back to read (more…) Taking the Summer Off!!June 2, 2009
Yep, I'm taking the summer off. I have two college classes this summer and two in the fall and I'll graduate with my B.S. in Human Development/Family Studies in December. So, I'm not going to be writing much on the blog UNLESS I come up with something really interesting or find something (more…)
March 16, 2009
When a child assumes the role of the parent, and the roles of parent and child reverse, a child is parentified.
Harping on Self WorthMarch 13, 2009
I don't mean to beat up the subject, but I think it's worth taking more time to talk about self worth. The issue came up today again because someone mentioned a problem a friend was having and the only answer I could come up with is, "She doesn't care enough about herself to take (more…)
What am I worth?February 9, 2009
I haven't posted in a long time, mostly because I'm caught up with school work and life in general. We had a month or more of horrible weather, Christmas hit at the same time, then we had flooding and my property with a view of the valley became waterfront property. This morning there is (more…)
Book on ParentificationDecember 18, 2008
I found this book:
Family Psychopathology By Luciano L'Abate and you can read it here for free: http://books.google.com/books?hl=en&lr=&id=0TvxEZMAUdQC&oi=fnd&pg=PA237&dq=parentification&ots=bila29oRiL&sig=0rD-GhO5MZgnAO1JcUpx92cBL7M#PPP1,M1 There is so much talk and research going on now (more…) Attachment to Parents and ParentificationDecember 12, 2008
I have been studying attachment theory and doing some research on how childhood attachment affects the health of people as they grow older. There is evidence that a poor childhood attachment leads to all kinds of problems and especially poor health. While I am not an expert on this subject, I have read some (more…)
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